Jean the ENTJ

11:33 AM Jean Melgar 4 Comments

ENTJ - Extravert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Judging
ENTJs are natural-born leaders. People with this personality type embody the gifts of charisma and confidence, and project authority in a way that draws crowds together behind a common goal. But unlike their Feeling (F) counterpart, ENTJs are characterized by an often ruthless level of rationality, using their drive, determination and sharp minds to achieve whatever end they've set for themselves. Perhaps it is best that they make up only three percent of the population, lest they overwhelm the more timid and sensitive personality types that make up much of the rest of the world - but we have ENTJs to thank for many of the businesses and institutions we take for granted every day. - Source
They say ENTJs are one of the rare personality types, comprising of about 1.8% of the population (Source). I don't completely understand why but I guess it is necessary.

Wondering why I am writing about this? Here are a couple of reasons.

I have been seeing introversion as a cool trend in social media. I mean, seriously? Do I have to lock myself up at home? Do I have to say no to every social invitation that comes my way? Do I have to sit in a corner by myself during a party? Do I have to hate small talk? Do I have to be an introvert to be perceived as a deep and smart young lady? I'm slightly offended that extraverts are portrayed to be loud obnoxious individuals who like to party and waste their time chatting away in large groups of people. People are using the "I'm an introvert" excuse so much lately and it's so annoying. Extraverts, like me, also enjoy  alone time, reading books, and having deep meaningful conversations with a small group or an individual. In fact, I do not just enjoy my alone time, I treasure it. A week without it drains all my energy. I prefer spending weekends alone or with family quietly. I prefer having meals and coffee with a really close friend than a large group of friends/acquaintances. I guess I'm just tired of this introverts-are-much-more-cooler-and-smarter-than-those-noisy-extraverts.

I have nothing against introverts.

I'm often misunderstood. I'm bold, assertive, confident, and most of the time, take charge of matters. Often, I'm the leader. Ever since I was young, this is the case. I hate incompetence. I hate it when tasks are to be assigned and people look away so they won't be called. I hate it when leaders drop and forget everything before the finish line. I hate it when people don't deliver their assigned tasks. I hate it when people pass the buck. I hate inefficiency. Put all of these together and what do I get? I'm labelled as pabida. I always get the remark, "Ikaw na!"

Here's the thing. I have a lot of energy and drive. I used to use those to dance everyday. Now, I use them at work and many socio-civic activities. It drives me insane when there is nothing to be done. A couple of days is OK but I thrive in a busy, fast-paced, and competitive environment. I'm not making pabida or pasikat, it's my nature. It is who I am. I never mean to offend or belittle anyone. I'm not making you look bad. It's just how I am.

I'm cold and ruthless. Well, actually, yes I am. You know that friend who you don't want to tell your problems to because she will give you the cold harsh reality check? The kind of friend who will not give you fluffy words of sugar-coated bullcrap? I'm that friend. I realize that I'm not really mean but I see the truth and dislike sugar-coating and beating around the bush. I'm not sorry I'm like this. However, I'm sorry if I offended you in any way.

Reading this you might think, she must be one unhappy overworked b*tch. I'm not. I'm really a happy person who loves babies and children. According to my Love Language profile, I express love by providing quality time and through physical touch. I love hugs and kisses! I'm not that cold.

I'm happy with myself. I actually like myself even if I'm faaaar from perfect. I understand that we are all different and unique. I hope that someday, others will understand that, too.

How about you? What is your personality type? Have you encountered any challenges because of it?


  1. I never knew there's a movement to make introverts look cool. Lol. I'm an introvert btw, adapting in an extrovert-required field (PR & Marketing).

    I also never knew that extroverts have issues like you mentioned above. Enlightening. That's the problem with Philippine culture: confidence is seen as "pabida." We also have a culture of not speaking up. In a way, I get it, that if you're an introvert and you get shy, but it shouldn't get the way of getting things done. In our company, they encourage you to speak up in any manner you're comfortable with - email, one-on-one convo, in a group. The culture really helps introverts like me cope.

    Sorry for the off-tangent and long-winding comment, but I do hope this post helps dispel misconceptions about yourself and being an extrovert :)

    1. Being an introvert in that field must be challenging! I like how where you work deals with the matter. I've seen an introvert cry in front of everyone because she was too afraid to present to a group of people. I wanted to hug her.

      I think you are one of those confident introverts. :)

  2. I'm an ISTP (surprise surprise, introvert pala ako hahaha) which makes me super logical/rational and I have trouble with emotions... that means I can also be cold and ruthless HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

    1. I like cold, ruthless, and logical people! HAHAHAHA